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Personality Types: A Quick Overview and Some Thoughts

I just have to say, I love using the app Werdsmith on my iPad. It is perfect for writing blog posts, journal entries, or other documents that don’t need to be fancied up. The page that you write on is entirely blank. No advertisements, no toolbar, nothing other than a little button in the top right-hand corner from which you can access all formatting, sharing, goal-setting, helps, as well as word count and time to read. It is definitely the best writing app I have ever used. Plus, it’s free! So basically, if you write on an iPad, go download Werdsmith from the App Store. It is awesome.

Werdsmith aside, I have been thinking a lot recently about personality types. Okay, so I think about personality types a lot pretty much all the time, but I recently got a new book on personalities (for free!), so it has been on my mind extra-much. This book was especially for women looking to improve their marriage by understanding their personality type and their husband’s personality type. As usual, I was able to pick out my personality type right away, and entirely unable to nail down my husband. Out of the four major personality types, he is a lot of three of them, and a little of the fourth (the fourth being my personality type, ironically enough).

For those of you who are not super well-versed on personality types, I will give you a quick run-down, but please, don’t just read my descriptions and decide that you know about each type. I strongly suggest taking Tony Robbin’s DISC test, and reading up on personality types. Unfortunately, I do not have a book to recommend to you, as most of my information has come through conversation with other personality geeks and various seminars/talks.

There are four basic personality types–D, I, S, and C. Also known as choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, and melancholy, respectively. (Or, according to “Personalities in Love,” that book I mentioned reading, Powerful, Popular, Peaceful, and Perfect.)

D’s (choleric, powerful) tend to be motivated by the ability to make decisions and be in charge. They are doers, driven, determined, and frequently come up with new ideas. They can tend to come across as bossy or controlling, but they do get things done. They are extroverted and task-oriented.

I’s (sanguine, popular) are motivated by people and fun. They tend to be very outgoing, the life of the party. They love to talk and be the center of attention. They may dress in loud colors or interesting fashions. They tend to stand out. They can tend to talk a bit too much, but they certainly are fun to be around. They are extroverted and people-oriented.

S’s (phlegmatic, peaceful) are motivated by peace. They like things to be calm and people to be happy. They tend to be very loyal and helpful. They are also often quite creative and artistic. They can tend to be prone to inaction, but when they do things, it is generally for the good of others. They are introverted and people-oriented.

C’s (melancholy, perfect) are motivated by order. They are planners, organized, read-the-instructions-before-assembling type people. They often find pleasure in getting things in order and can get overwhelmed when faced with tons of clutter. Keeping their word is very important to them, so they also tend to be quite loyal. They can tend to be prone to depression, and place more value on getting things done than on relationships. They are introverted and task-oriented. [This is me!]

As I pondered the different personality types, a conversation with a friend came to mind. I had mentioned that I had started waking up at 6:00 in order to read my Bible, exercise, make breakfast and coffee for my husband, and get ready for the day before my husband left for work. She responded with something like, “I feel like a slacker, I don’t usually wake up until my husband leaves for work.” What I have recently realized is that the reason I wake up early and have my morning routine is not because I am more disciplined than others or because I care enough about my husband to wake up before him and make him coffee. Rather, I wake up early and go through my morning routine because it brings order. I am internally motivated to do things that bring order to my life, and waking up early brings order to my life. Therefore, even when I don’t want to wake up early, I still have the internal motivation to wake up early in order to bring order to my morning, and therefore the rest of my day.

I think that many of the comparisons that we make with others are entirely unfair, not just because they are in a different place than we are in life, but because we are all internally motivated by different things. The person who still has a spotless house even though they recently had a baby; the person who continues to bring people meals when they are sick, even though their life is hectic; the person who dresses in all of the latest fashions even though they have three little kids; the person who has awesome ideas, each of these we may admire, or be jealous of, because of what they are able to do despite obstacles. What we don’t see, however, is that they have an internal motivation to do those things.

I don’t clean my house because I know it’s important. I clean because it gives me pleasure to have a clean house–more so than the average person. Even the act of cleaning–or putting my house in order–gives me pleasure. Now, I’m certainly not saying that D’s, I’s, and S’s shouldn’t clean, just that they may not have as much internal motivation to do it. So they need to either find a way that cleaning accomplishes their desire to make decisions, have fun, and be peaceful, or simply realize that in exhausting seasons, such as right after having a baby, their house is just not going to be clean, and be okay with that.

I on the other hand, need to realize that sometimes I need to take a break from putting things in order so that I can connect with people and form relationships.

What are your thoughts? Do you know what personality type you are? What are you internally motivated to do?

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Creating a Life I Love – Cooking

I am considering rearranging my food ideas and cooking schedule. I want to arrange it in a way that will allow me to cook intentionally–try new recipes, techniques, and just enjoy cooking in and of itself–as well as lower the temptation to going out for dinner, lunch, etc. My thought is: plan certain days for cooking supper intentionally. Of course, I cook pretty much every night, but these would be nights where I plan a full meal, try new recipes, and not shy away from expensive ingredients or time-consuming processes. These could function as date nights even; we could light candles, put on some nice music, and really enjoy the food, company, and time to relax. We would save money by taking a date at home, and I would be able to focus on cooking, which is something that I really do enjoy.

Then there would be perhaps one other day for cooking staples–bread, granola, tomato sauce, meatballs, and any other staple that comes to mind–along with breakfasts–cobbler/crisp, baked oatmeal, scrambles, frittatas, or whatever other breakfast foods I feel like. I would need to freeze most of them, but it would allow for a quick, delicious breakfast, which would be immensely helpful in actually feeding Rem breakfast and allowing me to get on with my day. Plus, it would prevent the occasional Saturday morning strong desire to go out for breakfast and not cook. Although, I may want to plan one fancy breakfast a week, which would most likely happen on Saturday. I do love starting out the day by making something extra-special that Rem will like (and I like it also, of course).

The rest of the weekday dinners would be really simple–mac & cheese, spaghetti and meatballs, veggie soup, pot roast, etc. This would enable me to get other things done other than cooking on those days. In addition, for these meals, I would most likely come up with a list of 10-20 simple staples which I would repeat. While I am not terribly keen on repeating meals often, Rem would appreciate it a lot; he is always giving me a hard time about never making the same recipe twice.

On weekends, I would plan either heat-and-eat meals–like, insanely simple, yet still delicious–or grilling. Rem loves grilling, and I love eating food from the grill. It also gives the meal a special feel to it. Often when we grill, we also eat outside, which is special, and I am more likely to buy something like watermelon to go along with the meal. I think the simplicity and deliciousness of grilling would greatly decrease the temptation to eat out over the weekend. A crockpot meal would also be a good option. It’s not quite so fun to prepare, but knowing that there is food at home waiting to be eaten would greatly curb any desire to eat something out, if we happen to be hanging out in town. And you really cannot cook a crockpot meal that doesn’t taste great.

Step one of integrating things that I love into my week–cooking. Plus, I do love saving money 🙂 And getting out of debt is a major goal of mine this year (prenatal midwife visits and the necessity of securing a midwife and a place to give birth will do that to you). So, I’m killing two birds with one stone…score!

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What’s for Breakfast

Now that I am in my second trimester of pregnancy, my appetite has increased somewhat. While I would not say that I have been eating a lot more than usual, I have been eating four meals a day instead of three. I eat breakfast an hour or two after I wake up, and a second breakfast three hours later after my morning walk/run. Then I eat lunch between 2:00pm and 3:00pm and dinner between 6:00pm and 7:00pm. I plan dinners before my biweekly shopping trip, so I never have a hard time coming up with something to eat then, and I usually have leftovers for lunch. Breakfast, however, I rarely plan (and I eat it twice), so it has been a bit of a challenge coming up with healthy options, especially as I am trying to eat at least one fruit or veggie with each meal.

I thought I would share with you some of the breakfast solutions that I have come up with. They are healthy and relatively easy to make. I often prep (or entirely prepare) breakfast the night before so that it is ready to go in the morning.

Classic Baked Oatmeal

Serves: 2

This first recipe is great because it includes fruit inside the baked oatmeal. It tastes delightful topped with strawberries, Greek yoghurt, and a touch of maple syrup. These are easy to make the day before and simply reheat in the morning. Or, you could make a large batch over the weekend and store individual portions in the freezer to heat up during the week.

Ingredients:

1 cup Old Fashioned Oats

1 Overripe Banana

1/2 cup Milk

1 teaspoon Vanilla

1 teaspoon Cinnamon

1/8 teaspoon Salt

3 tablespoons Maple Syrup

Preheat oven to 375 F. Grease two small ramekins (or a small baking dish).

Mash the banana. Mix well all the ingredients.

Divide into the two ramekins and bake for 15-20 minutes.

Enjoy!

High Protein Breakfast Burrito

Serves: 1

This is my favorite second-breakfast meal. The egg and cottage cheese add a lot of protein, while the spinach and salsa provide some veggie-power. Plus, it tastes delicious.

Ingredients:

Butter/Olive Oil

Small chunk of frozen (or fresh) chopped spinach (about 1 teaspoon size)

1 Egg (Omega-3 enriched preferrable)

Salt & Petter (to taste)

1/3 – 1/2 cup Cottage Cheese

2 tablespoons Salsa (fresh is best)

1 Whole Wheat Tortilla

Coat a small skillet with the butter or olive oil and put on medium heat. Add the frozen spinach to defrost.

Once the spinach is defrosted, add the egg to the skillet and scramble. Add salt and pepper to taste.

When the egg is cooked, put it in the center of the tortilla. Top with the cottage cheese and salsa. Wrap it up.

At this point, you can either put the burrito in the skillet to warm up the cottage cheese and salsa, or if you’re like me and don’t want to wait, just eat it cold.

Bon Apetite!

Overnight Oatmeal

Serves: 1

Overnight oatmeal is so simple to prepare the night before, and can even be taken with you on the go. It can be eaten cold, warmed up in the microwave, or you can even blend it into a smoothie as a creamy, high protein base. Feel free to play around with the ingredients–more or less milk depending on how thick you want it; more, less, or a different type of sweetener, or even leave it out; different blends of fruit and spices to dress it up.

Ingredients:

Old Fashioned Oats

Milk

Plain Greek Yoghurt

Sweetener – Maple Syrup, Brown Sugar, Honey, Agave, Jam/Fruit Preserves

Spices – Cinnamon, Pumpkin/Apple Pie Spice, Nutmeg, Allspice

Extracts – Vanilla, Almond, Maple, Cherry, Coconut…

Fruit – Strawberries, Apples, Mango, Coconut, Cherries, Mixed Berries, Peaches

Fill a pint-size jar 1/3 with oats. Add milk until the jar is just over half full. Add 2-4 tablespoons of yoghurt.

Add your sweetener, spices, and extracts to taste, close the lid, and shake it up until well mixed.

Put the jar in the refrigerator overnight.

In the morning, add fruit and eat up!

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Things that I Love

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Writing. I do enjoy writing, quite a lot, actually. I think I am going to start a blog again–not for followers or page views or popularity, but entirely for the purpose of writing…and trying to learn more about myself in the process.

I don’t have a passion. Or I have too many passions. Either way, I don’t have anything to pursue, because I can’t decide what I should pursue. I love writing. I love outdoorsy stuff–hiking, climbing, cycling, motorcycle rides, exploring, cross-country skiing, etc. I love pottery. I love the city. I love looking at old buildings. I love cooking and baking. I love coffee–roasting, brewing, drinking…kind of. I love being a housewife. I love hanging out at coffee shops. I love cleaning and organizing–making my home look beautiful. I love observing people and meeting new people (I don’t really like initiating conversations though, or rather, I’m not very good at it). I love pottery. Like a lot. I love music. I love creating beautiful music. I love the idea of writing songs, but I’m not so good at it in application. I love the sun. I love the rain. I love rain followed by sun. I love art. I love the idea of being creative. I love cute clothes and putting together outfits. I love boots. I love Chuck Taylors. I love scarves and cardigans. I love brick. I love the color purple. I love culture. I love looking at beautiful artwork and listening to beautiful sounds. I love planning. I love researching. I love productivity. I love the idea of achieving goals through habits. I love morningtime. I love morning routines. I love talking with my husband. I love studying with my husband. I love studying in general. I love going to coffee shops with my husband or a friend. I love going on dates with my husband. I love wandering about big cities with my husband. I love Portland. I love city parks. I love picnics. I love meeting friendly, talkative homeless people. I love travelling. I love Thailand. I love foreign countries. I love Europe in general. I love long trips. I love road trips. I love not worrying about money. I love trying new recipes. I love tea. I love reading. I love sitting outside in the morning reading a good book and drinking tea. Or lemonade. I love grilling for dinner. Or rather, I love it when my husband grills for dinner. I love summer evenings. I love cabins in the middle of nowhere. I love walks. I love being warm and cozy. I love the sound of water–rain, stream, river, ocean. I love the feel of sand on my feet. I love walking barefoot in comfy grass. I love plants. I love gardens. I love fresh produce. I love farmer’s markets. I love free samles. I love the idea of sustainable living–if that’s growing your own food and raising chickens…maybe that’s homesteading? I love soft, cozy blankets. I love lace. I love matching. I love order. I love talking about things of substance. I love bed and breakfasts. I love train rides. I love running. I love being strong. I love learning. I love being smart. I love mango with sticky rice. I love the idea of completing a triathlon. I love simplicity. I love the idea of living with less. I love productivity. I love to do lists. I love achieving goals. I love the idea of being a mom. I love the idea of helping people. I love going on mission trips. I love taking prayer walks. I love having Scripture memorized. I love being able to cross-reference when reading the Bible. I love the idea of drawing. I love the idea of improv. I love design. I love designing. I love colour. I love British spelling. I love Spanish. I love learning languages. I love thinking. I love C.S. Lewis’ writings.

I’m running out of ideas of things that I love. But needless to say, I love a lot of things. Certainly not all of them would make a good life pursuit…or even a good month-long pursuit. (I can’t pursue “the city” for any length of time, really. I can’t pursue mango with sticky rice for much more than a week.) Even excepting those that would not make good pursuits however, I still have too many things that I love to do. Or that I would love to do. How could I keep up going to coffee shops, making pottery, writing, reading, triathlon, cooking, coffee roasting, and buying fresh produce at farmer’s markets all the time? I wouldn’t have the money or the time…or maybe I would…read and write at a coffee shop a couple times a week. Triathlon train every morning. Cook meals, like I already do. Have two or three pottery studio days a week. Have two or three coffee roasting days a week. Block out Saturday mornings to hang out at the farmer’s market…or maybe sell some of my pottery, writing, or coffee beans. It doesn’t actually sound too difficult to do. Although I do need to keep up with cleaning the house. But one day a week is sufficient for that.

But where am I to get the money to fund that? We are currently barely making ends meet, and certainly I couldn’t do all those things and work a part-time job at the same time. Coffee, studio time, produce, and gas money are the necessities. Coffee, $10 per week, more if I get lunch too. Studio time, $45 for three days, plus the cost of clay, glaze, and firing time…perhaps an extra $20 per week? Produce would be around $20 a week, possibly more if I also wanted to buy grass-fed beef, fresh eggs, and other random farmer’s market stuff. $50 might be a safer bet. Gas money would probably be about a tank a week with my white car. About $50 per week, I think. Okay, so total that up and…about $175 each week. There’s no way I could make that work.

Now that I listed that out, however, I have second thoughts. Would I really enjoy pottery enough to do it three times a week? Would I enjoy it at all? Maybe I would lose interest. That would sadden me. I almost prefer not doing pottery at all than doing pottery and realizing that I don’t love it as much as I thought I would or getting tired of it. I guess that would save about $65 each week. Still, maybe fear of not liking it or getting tired of it is a lame excuse for not doing something. I’m pretty sure Rem would say so. He would certainly encourage me to do pottery–at least try it. Well, maybe I will. Maybe I will save up the $150 for six weeks of pottery lessons…maybe $300 so that both Rem and I could do it. And I will see if I like it, if I’m any good at it, if I really do love it. We’ll see what I actually do. I am afraid of investing money in something that I might end up not loving.